We actively acknowledge our privilege and power and openly discuss them.
We recognize that as recipients of privilege we will always be capable of perpetuating systems of oppression from which our privilege came
About Allyship
What is Allyship?
Allyship is not an identity—it is a lifelong process of building relationships based on trust, consistency, and accountability with marginalized individuals and/or groups of people.
Allyship is not self-defined—our work and our efforts must be recognized by the people we seek to ally ourselves with
It is important to be intentional in how we frame the work we do.
i.e. we are showing support for…, we are showing our commitment to ending [a system of oppression] by…, we are using our privilege to help by…
Responsibilities
We are not acting out of guilt, but rather out of responsibility.
We listen more and speak less.
We hold back on our ideas, opinions, and ideologies, and resist the urge to “save” the people we seek to work with as, with adequate resources and support, they will figure out their own solutions that meet their needs.
We do our work with integrity and direct communication.
We take guidance and direction from the people we seek to work with (not the other way around), and we keep our word.
We do not expect to be educated by others.
We continuously do our own research on the oppressions experienced by the people we seek to work with, including herstory/history, current news, and what realities created by systems of oppression look, feel, smell, taste and sound like.
We build our capacity to receive criticism,
to be honest and accountable with our mistakes, and recognize that being called out for making a mistake is a gift—that it is an honour of trust to receive a chance to be a better person, to learn, to grow, and to do things differently.
We embrace the emotions that come out of the process of allyship,
understanding that we will feel uncomfortable, challenged, and hurt.
Our needs are secondary to the people we seek to work with.
We are responsible for our self-care and recognize that part of the privilege of our identity is that we have a choice about whether or not to resist oppression; we do not expect the people we seek to work with to provide emotional support (and we’re grateful if they do).
We do not expect awards or special recognition.
for confronting issues that people have to live with every day and redirect attention to the groups we are supporting, and the issues they face, when we do.
Roles
We act out of genuine interest in challenging larger oppressive power structures.
We are here to support and make use of our privilege and power for the people we seek to work with
We turn the spotlight we are given away from ourselves and towards the voices of those who are continuously marginalized, silenced, and ignored; we give credit where credit is due
We use opportunities to engage people with whom we share identity and privilege in conversations about oppression experienced by those we seek to work with
Building Trust
It is important to talk about allyship in this way, as much confusion has come out of problematic ideas of “being an ally”. These may be well-meaning, but they often recreate the same oppressions or perpetuate new ones.
Allyship is greatly valued and a huge step towards challenging oppression, however, we must understand possible feelings of resentment, bitterness, and even resistance towards us from the people we seek to work with. These feelings are not personal to us, but are reflective of peoples’ experiences with allyship with others like us (past and present). Building trust takes time, so we must recognize that what we can offer may not always be immediately needed or accepted.
In the meantime, we have opportunities to practice allyship ever day:
- How much space are we taking up in conversations? In rooms? In organizing?
- How do we actively improve access to our meetings? Our actions?
- How are our identities taking up space? Physically? Verbally?
- How much do we know about the people we seek to work with? What are our assumptions and from where did they originate?
- Who are we leaving behind?
In particular to colonization, take special effort to acknowledge the original peoples of the area/region/location in which you live, play, and do your work, and connect with your local Indigenous communities to involve them from the start, including elders, hereditary chiefs, and youth.
